Welcome to “Back to School”–whether today is your first day back from the summer or just the long weekend.
This is usually a busy time of year in my business, as the added stresses of school sometimes push kids past the “middle/green zone” and into the “red zone” of problems (whether that ends up being anxiety, behavior problems, etc.)
But, I am reminded that even when kids & families are still within their ‘green zone,’ back-to-school is still a stressor. Everywhere I look, I see more tears, more tantrums, more exasperated parents, more frustrated voices than usual.
So, for today, this week, next week: I encourage parents to really focus on:
- getting enough sleep & healthy nutrition for YOU
- okay, the kids, too ;^)
- carve out time to reconnect in a playful, loving way every day after school/work. Go swimming if your pool is still open, go for a bike ride together, play with the dog in the backyard, wrestle on the floor together, or read a book together while cuddling.
Have fun, pay attention to each other, burn off a little energy, have fun, and reconnect. And have fun. :^)
Well, of course we all know this already, but it’s nice having one’s own experiences validated by research anyway. ;^) Click over to Nancy Shute’s “On Parenting” blog for the full story.
And then in response, I’ll paste in Kirk Martin of Celebrate Calm‘s response which came via his email newsletter today. He says that yeah, duh, we all know that’s true, but:
“The purpose of marriage, of all relationships, is not happiness. What has possessed us to believe that cramming 2, 3, 4 or 5 imperfect people under one roof is somehow going to result in bliss?!”
He continues, saying:
The purpose of relationships is transformation. Relationships cause friction. Relationships force us to grow up. That friction can either result in us being worn down, resentful and irritated; or the friction can strip the crusty, gritty exterior off of us and leave us shinier and better than we were before.